How to Prepare Edikaikong Soup
Evening peeps,am bringing to you one special meal I learnt from one of my aunty from Calabar...I hope u enjoy it.
Edikang Ikong Soup recipe
*Spinach/fluted Pumpkin leaves(Ugu)
* Water leaves
* Assorted meat(cow tripe (shaki),snails, cow's skin
*Stockfish(optional)
*Smoked fish
*palm oil
*Periwinkles(optional), but it gives the soup a boost
*Ground crayfish
*stock cubes
* onion
*Pepper ( Atarodo)
*salt to taste
PROCEDURE
*Prepare the vegetables by washing and cutting them into tiny bits(thin slices preferably) and set aside.
*Wash and cut the assorted meat in bite-able sizes. Clean the periwinkles, dried fish and stock fish and set aside.
Now to cook the Edikang Ikong Soup...
* Place the assorted meat and stock fish in the pot , add a little water,the chopped onion and one stock cube.Cook until all the meat is properly cooked and there is just a little liquid in the pot(remember to cook the toughest meat first).
* When the meat is done, add the dried fish and periwinkle.Add the palm oil, the ground pepper and crayfish and leave to boil for about 10 minutes.
* Now add the water leaves(or lamb lettuce) and leave to cook for 3 minutes. Then add the Ikong Ubong /Ugwu leaves(fluted pumpkin leaves) and salt to taste. Stir thoroughly and leave to simmer for 5 minutes on low heat and your Edikang Ikong soup is ready. Enjoy!
Edikang Ikong soup is usually served with Usi(Starch),Pounded Yam, Eba, Fufu, Wheat meal, Semolina or Amala.
Saturday, 15 February 2014
Friday, 31 January 2014
Weekend Special Meal 2
HOW TO PREPARE EGUSI SOUP:
INGREDIENTS
Salt
Egusi
Onions
Ponmo
Palm Oil
Vegetables (ugwu leaves)
Knorr Cube
Locust Beans (optional)
Ground Crayfish
Chopped Pepper
Chicken/Meat/Turkey/Fish
PROCEDURE
Heat up a pot and add palm oil, enough to fry the egusi (not deep fry oh)
When the palm oil is hot add onion, stir a bit then add chopped pepper. If you use blended pepper you don't need to add it at this stage.
Add Iru (locust beans) too but that's optional.
Add the blended melon and stir continuously. Egusi quickly burns and when it does, the taste will be different.
Add blended crayfish and blended dry pepper (if that's what you have) Stir for about 5 minutes.
Add stock if you have or just use water, I'd rather use stock, makes it yummier!
Add some water to the mixture.
Add your boiled beef/meat/chicken, cover and allow to boil.
Stir it frequently. I add my beef/chicken at this stage because I want the egusi juice to marinate the beef/ponmo,chicken. If I'm using fish or soft chicken/turkey I add it right before I add my vegetables.
When it's cooked you will see the oil floating a bit on the top. Taste for salt...if the spice from the stock is not enough then add some more. It's better to wait to add stock before adding salt/knorr when cooking to avoid over salting the food.
Now you can add your vegetables. I love using Ugwu leaves.
Mix the vegetable with the Egusi and cover to allow it cook properly.
Serve with Amala, Pounded Yam. Semo even Rice!
Egusi is one of favourite soup,I hope you enjoy this.....Happy New month...
INGREDIENTS
Salt
Egusi
Onions
Ponmo
Palm Oil
Vegetables (ugwu leaves)
Knorr Cube
Locust Beans (optional)
Ground Crayfish
Chopped Pepper
Chicken/Meat/Turkey/Fish
PROCEDURE
Heat up a pot and add palm oil, enough to fry the egusi (not deep fry oh)
When the palm oil is hot add onion, stir a bit then add chopped pepper. If you use blended pepper you don't need to add it at this stage.
Add Iru (locust beans) too but that's optional.
Add the blended melon and stir continuously. Egusi quickly burns and when it does, the taste will be different.
Add blended crayfish and blended dry pepper (if that's what you have) Stir for about 5 minutes.
Add stock if you have or just use water, I'd rather use stock, makes it yummier!
Add some water to the mixture.
Add your boiled beef/meat/chicken, cover and allow to boil.
Stir it frequently. I add my beef/chicken at this stage because I want the egusi juice to marinate the beef/ponmo,chicken. If I'm using fish or soft chicken/turkey I add it right before I add my vegetables.
When it's cooked you will see the oil floating a bit on the top. Taste for salt...if the spice from the stock is not enough then add some more. It's better to wait to add stock before adding salt/knorr when cooking to avoid over salting the food.
Now you can add your vegetables. I love using Ugwu leaves.
Mix the vegetable with the Egusi and cover to allow it cook properly.
Serve with Amala, Pounded Yam. Semo even Rice!
Egusi is one of favourite soup,I hope you enjoy this.....Happy New month...
Wednesday, 22 January 2014
9 tips to help you stop snoring.
Snoring is a fairly common affliction, affecting
40 percent of men and 25 percent of women. If you snore, you make a raspy, rattling, snorting sound while you breathe during sleep. Older people are particularly prone to snoring: About one-third of people ages 55 to 84 snore.
Despite its frequency, however, snoring is a sleep disorder that can have serious medical and social consequences. The tips that follow may help you sleep more peacefully.
1.Sleep on your side
Sleeping on your side may reduce snoring.You're more likely to snore if you're lying on your back, and sleeping on your stomach is stressful on your neck.
2.Lose weight
Remove pressure on your airway by losing weight.Excess body weight, especially around the neck, puts pressure on the airway, causing it to partially collapse.
3.Avoid Alcohol and Tranquilizers
Alcohol has been shown to contribute to sleep apnea.
Both alcohol and sleeping pills can depress your central nervous system and relax the muscles of your throat and jaw, making snoring more likely. These substances are also known to contribute to sleep apnea, a dangerous condition that has been linked with cardiovascular disease. And they should never, ever be used together. If you have difficulty sleeping without sleeping pills (or if you use alcohol to help yourself fall asleep), discuss it with your doctor.
4.Get Your Allergies Treated
Allergic reactions may include runny nose, sneezing and itchy,watery eyes.Chronic respiratory allergies may cause snoring by forcing sufferers to breathe through their mouths while they sleep. If your nose is stuffed up before bed try using an inhaler.
5. Buy a Mouth Guard
See your dentist for a mouth guard.Your dentist or doctor may be able to prescribe an antisnoring mouth guard that holds the teeth together and keeps the lower jaw muscles from becoming too lax.
6.Stop Smoking
Smoking contributes to snoring.Smoke damages the respiratory system,in case you love smoking,try as much as possible to stop.
7. Keep a Regular Schedule
Get plenty of sleep. Go to bed and get up at the same time each day.
8.See a Doctor if You Are Pregnant and Snoring
Check with your doctor if you are snoring while you are pregnant.
Sometimes, women who are pregnant will begin to snore. The snoring may begin because of the increased body weight and because the hormonal changes of pregnancy cause muscles to relax. Whatever the cause, snoring during pregnancy may rob your baby of oxygen. Talk with your doctor about it.
9. Elevate Your Head
Sleeping with your head raised may take some of the pressure off of the airway, making breathing easier. Raise the head of the bed by putting blocks under the bed posts, or prop up your upper body (not just your head, which can actually inhibit breathing) with pillows.
i hope you try these tips....and I hope it helps.
God morning and have a wonderful day...hugs and kisses.
40 percent of men and 25 percent of women. If you snore, you make a raspy, rattling, snorting sound while you breathe during sleep. Older people are particularly prone to snoring: About one-third of people ages 55 to 84 snore.
Despite its frequency, however, snoring is a sleep disorder that can have serious medical and social consequences. The tips that follow may help you sleep more peacefully.
1.Sleep on your side
Sleeping on your side may reduce snoring.You're more likely to snore if you're lying on your back, and sleeping on your stomach is stressful on your neck.
2.Lose weight
Remove pressure on your airway by losing weight.Excess body weight, especially around the neck, puts pressure on the airway, causing it to partially collapse.
3.Avoid Alcohol and Tranquilizers
Alcohol has been shown to contribute to sleep apnea.
Both alcohol and sleeping pills can depress your central nervous system and relax the muscles of your throat and jaw, making snoring more likely. These substances are also known to contribute to sleep apnea, a dangerous condition that has been linked with cardiovascular disease. And they should never, ever be used together. If you have difficulty sleeping without sleeping pills (or if you use alcohol to help yourself fall asleep), discuss it with your doctor.
4.Get Your Allergies Treated
Allergic reactions may include runny nose, sneezing and itchy,watery eyes.Chronic respiratory allergies may cause snoring by forcing sufferers to breathe through their mouths while they sleep. If your nose is stuffed up before bed try using an inhaler.
5. Buy a Mouth Guard
See your dentist for a mouth guard.Your dentist or doctor may be able to prescribe an antisnoring mouth guard that holds the teeth together and keeps the lower jaw muscles from becoming too lax.
6.Stop Smoking
Smoking contributes to snoring.Smoke damages the respiratory system,in case you love smoking,try as much as possible to stop.
7. Keep a Regular Schedule
Get plenty of sleep. Go to bed and get up at the same time each day.
8.See a Doctor if You Are Pregnant and Snoring
Check with your doctor if you are snoring while you are pregnant.
Sometimes, women who are pregnant will begin to snore. The snoring may begin because of the increased body weight and because the hormonal changes of pregnancy cause muscles to relax. Whatever the cause, snoring during pregnancy may rob your baby of oxygen. Talk with your doctor about it.
9. Elevate Your Head
Sleeping with your head raised may take some of the pressure off of the airway, making breathing easier. Raise the head of the bed by putting blocks under the bed posts, or prop up your upper body (not just your head, which can actually inhibit breathing) with pillows.
i hope you try these tips....and I hope it helps.
God morning and have a wonderful day...hugs and kisses.
Tuesday, 21 January 2014
Tips on how to build a strong relationship.
For any strong healthy relationship with partners & lovers, there are some qualities which make the relationship strong. A relationship forms as a bond of trust between eachother and supports each other. There are some skills which help you to create a strong bonding with trust in relationships.
1.Relax optimistically
Having a relax mind about the person with whom you are interested in relationship will help you to build a strong trust and relationship. When you feel comfortable with others, then they will feel comfortable with you. If you are interested in relationship don't be nervous because a nervous person can't achieve his destiny and the partner will easily sense that and they will withdraw from relationships. It is common when we meet a online friend in real world, but have a brighten face which will attract the friend you are meeting and also persons around.
2.Listen deeply
Relaxing your mind and smileing gives a start to build trust with each other but when you listen to the words and messages of your partner then it will create unexplainable joy to the heart of your friend or partner. Share their thoughts by listening to their words. Allow them to speak, In a successful relationship between any two persons there will be a lot of communication and sharing. Before building trust no person will tell their secrets but when you listen to them with heart then they will open their heart wide for accomodating you into that place. Listening creates an emotional feelings to person who is communicating. Friendship and relationships are tied with a bond of emotion not with a bond of appearance. This kind of shareing will come when they feel comfortable and trust on you. To get this relationship and friendship you need to listen carefully.
3.Respond carefully
Emotions create good and also bad. Emotionally motivated persons will do good and wrongs because they relates everything with emotions. When you are emotionally charged choose your words correctly. If you're not correct in your words then the trust you bilt till that moment will shatter into peices which is unrecoverable. So choose your words and emotions carefully.
Showing your emotions without understandig the other person mood will also create problems, so understand the person's mood and needs.
4 Compliment them
Compliment, a small word which does miracle. No one in this world hates compliment because it gives joy to your heart that they appreciate us for our work. Compliment them whenever possible. Appreciating a person is like walking on top of a knife. When you overcompliment them they will think as you are teasing thme rather than appreciating their work, which will back fire you. So compliment them with some limit. Share their joy and sarrows with you also. A response can be encouraging or discouraging, but a limited compliment will encourage others and they get trust on you. Guys you can try with a girl with following words " Hey _____( fill with that person name), You look gerogeous and stunning.", it may be true or false but that girl with whom you are trying will like you. And gals you try the same with guys, guys will follow you and do anything for you people. This is the power of compliment. Each and every person loves compliment.
7. Act Authentically
Authentically means acting with Values.In simple word be yourself.
When you act like yourself you are honest to yourself and also to others which will never make you as wrong rather it gives you respect among others. Say what you can do and do what you say, be a man of words. When you are standing on your words your partner will trust you and your words. Be clear in your relationship, and find what your partner needs from your relationships. This will give you a clear mind rather than a confused mind. when you are clear by your mind you will feel relaxed and comfortable in your relationship.
8. Acknowledge Generously
When you need relationship look positive qualities of others rather than looking bad qualities. Acknowledgement from another person will register that person in brain or mind for a long time. That figure will not forget or dimnish in the mind. Acknowledge them for their good qualities, Don't overlook bad qualities of others. Show your gratitude and encouragement by words and actions to your partner. Encourage them when they are in difficulties, support them when they are in need, These are all some kind of acknowledgeing problems of them and providing hands for help. When heart registers us as we are there for helping at anytime heart never feel dipressed rather it shares its problem like river of flood. Shareing problem comes only after your relationship is builded with strong base and trust.
Good morning,Have a Wonderful day.
1.Relax optimistically
Having a relax mind about the person with whom you are interested in relationship will help you to build a strong trust and relationship. When you feel comfortable with others, then they will feel comfortable with you. If you are interested in relationship don't be nervous because a nervous person can't achieve his destiny and the partner will easily sense that and they will withdraw from relationships. It is common when we meet a online friend in real world, but have a brighten face which will attract the friend you are meeting and also persons around.
2.Listen deeply
Relaxing your mind and smileing gives a start to build trust with each other but when you listen to the words and messages of your partner then it will create unexplainable joy to the heart of your friend or partner. Share their thoughts by listening to their words. Allow them to speak, In a successful relationship between any two persons there will be a lot of communication and sharing. Before building trust no person will tell their secrets but when you listen to them with heart then they will open their heart wide for accomodating you into that place. Listening creates an emotional feelings to person who is communicating. Friendship and relationships are tied with a bond of emotion not with a bond of appearance. This kind of shareing will come when they feel comfortable and trust on you. To get this relationship and friendship you need to listen carefully.
3.Respond carefully
Emotions create good and also bad. Emotionally motivated persons will do good and wrongs because they relates everything with emotions. When you are emotionally charged choose your words correctly. If you're not correct in your words then the trust you bilt till that moment will shatter into peices which is unrecoverable. So choose your words and emotions carefully.
Showing your emotions without understandig the other person mood will also create problems, so understand the person's mood and needs.
4 Compliment them
Compliment, a small word which does miracle. No one in this world hates compliment because it gives joy to your heart that they appreciate us for our work. Compliment them whenever possible. Appreciating a person is like walking on top of a knife. When you overcompliment them they will think as you are teasing thme rather than appreciating their work, which will back fire you. So compliment them with some limit. Share their joy and sarrows with you also. A response can be encouraging or discouraging, but a limited compliment will encourage others and they get trust on you. Guys you can try with a girl with following words " Hey _____( fill with that person name), You look gerogeous and stunning.", it may be true or false but that girl with whom you are trying will like you. And gals you try the same with guys, guys will follow you and do anything for you people. This is the power of compliment. Each and every person loves compliment.
7. Act Authentically
Authentically means acting with Values.In simple word be yourself.
When you act like yourself you are honest to yourself and also to others which will never make you as wrong rather it gives you respect among others. Say what you can do and do what you say, be a man of words. When you are standing on your words your partner will trust you and your words. Be clear in your relationship, and find what your partner needs from your relationships. This will give you a clear mind rather than a confused mind. when you are clear by your mind you will feel relaxed and comfortable in your relationship.
8. Acknowledge Generously
When you need relationship look positive qualities of others rather than looking bad qualities. Acknowledgement from another person will register that person in brain or mind for a long time. That figure will not forget or dimnish in the mind. Acknowledge them for their good qualities, Don't overlook bad qualities of others. Show your gratitude and encouragement by words and actions to your partner. Encourage them when they are in difficulties, support them when they are in need, These are all some kind of acknowledgeing problems of them and providing hands for help. When heart registers us as we are there for helping at anytime heart never feel dipressed rather it shares its problem like river of flood. Shareing problem comes only after your relationship is builded with strong base and trust.
Good morning,Have a Wonderful day.
Friday, 17 January 2014
Weekend Special Meal 1
Good Morning Friends,I hope you all had a fulfilled week?
I will be bringing to you every weekend a meal to try at home,its recipee and its procedure,I hope you enjoy cooking as much as I do?....So try this today...
Plantain and pepper snail
INGREDIENTS
SALT
ONION
SNAIL
CURRY
THYME
TOMATOES
PLANTAIN
VEGETABLE OIL
BOUILION CUBE
GREEN PEPPER
RECIPE
Peel and boil plantain, I like to use half ripe plantain and I do not add salt because too much salt is not god for your health!!! *sometimes I peel and boil other times I boil in its skin.
Wash snails with lime/lemon and water. I like to buy already washed snails and I re wash. Ain't nobody got time to crack and wash snail from start.
Place washed snails in boiling water, add salt, bouillon cube and onion, cook for about 25 minutes.
Blend tomatoes, pepper and onion, roughly I usually use a lot of pepper because I need it to be hot: I need my nose to run, that is the enjoyment.
Pour tomato mixture in a pot and boil till the water dries up. I like to do this because it means my tomato is quite cooked before i fry.
Heat up a pan/pot, add vegetable oil
When the oil is hot, add the chopped onion and fry for a bit, add the green pepper, everywhere will just be scenting. At this stage I like to add curry and bouillon cube again, kill your neighbours with the aroma of your food!
Add boiled tomato mixture and fry for about 5 minutes, then add the boiled snail
Reduce the heat of your cooker and allow it to stew slowly. Na this type dey sweet pass.
After about 5-10 minutes it should be ready to eat.
Serve with rice/boiled yam/ fried yam/ boiled plantain!
I hope you will enjoy this meal,drop ur comments and let me know if you enjoyed the tips. Thanks....Good morning..and have a lovely weekend.
I will be bringing to you every weekend a meal to try at home,its recipee and its procedure,I hope you enjoy cooking as much as I do?....So try this today...
Plantain and pepper snail
INGREDIENTS
SALT
ONION
SNAIL
CURRY
THYME
TOMATOES
PLANTAIN
VEGETABLE OIL
BOUILION CUBE
GREEN PEPPER
RECIPE
Peel and boil plantain, I like to use half ripe plantain and I do not add salt because too much salt is not god for your health!!! *sometimes I peel and boil other times I boil in its skin.
Wash snails with lime/lemon and water. I like to buy already washed snails and I re wash. Ain't nobody got time to crack and wash snail from start.
Place washed snails in boiling water, add salt, bouillon cube and onion, cook for about 25 minutes.
Blend tomatoes, pepper and onion, roughly I usually use a lot of pepper because I need it to be hot: I need my nose to run, that is the enjoyment.
Pour tomato mixture in a pot and boil till the water dries up. I like to do this because it means my tomato is quite cooked before i fry.
Heat up a pan/pot, add vegetable oil
When the oil is hot, add the chopped onion and fry for a bit, add the green pepper, everywhere will just be scenting. At this stage I like to add curry and bouillon cube again, kill your neighbours with the aroma of your food!
Add boiled tomato mixture and fry for about 5 minutes, then add the boiled snail
Reduce the heat of your cooker and allow it to stew slowly. Na this type dey sweet pass.
After about 5-10 minutes it should be ready to eat.
Serve with rice/boiled yam/ fried yam/ boiled plantain!
I hope you will enjoy this meal,drop ur comments and let me know if you enjoyed the tips. Thanks....Good morning..and have a lovely weekend.
Thursday, 16 January 2014
These are powerful articles on scorpios-if you are one,read about yourself here.
Evening peeps,I hope you are having a great day?A friend of mine shared this with me just now so I thought it would be nice sharing it with you guys too.I hope you find it interesting as I did...
Read carefully-
Scorpios make everyone go weak at the knees they are so utterly gorgeous. They have a brain sharper than a computer and no challenge is too difficult. They are very interesting, friendly and helpful. If you don’t do something mean to a Scorpio they will be your friend for life. They have total control of everything and everyone. They are extremely jealous and will plan for weeks how to get their revenge. They make the best detectives, doctors and lawyers as nothing escapes their notice.
Yaahh am proud to be a scorpio,if you know me quite well,then definitely you know some of these is true.*shines teeth*
More About Scorpio next time....Thanks for reading.
Read carefully-
Scorpios make everyone go weak at the knees they are so utterly gorgeous. They have a brain sharper than a computer and no challenge is too difficult. They are very interesting, friendly and helpful. If you don’t do something mean to a Scorpio they will be your friend for life. They have total control of everything and everyone. They are extremely jealous and will plan for weeks how to get their revenge. They make the best detectives, doctors and lawyers as nothing escapes their notice.
Yaahh am proud to be a scorpio,if you know me quite well,then definitely you know some of these is true.*shines teeth*
More About Scorpio next time....Thanks for reading.
Here are some things you should try NEVER to share with others about your partner
Sometimes we tend to share our relationships wahala or joys with our friends, family and sometimes random colleagues.
There are so many reasons why we do, if you’re riding on the waves of love with le boo, we tend to update our bbm status, update facebook status, ping friends to chat about how AWESOMELICIOUS your boo is and how HE IS THE BESTESTESTEST boo since "booness" began. Most of us are guilty. LOL. Some other times when the ship is not riding smoothly we become inspirational and update with sentimental things that everyone can decipher that, ol’boy, e be like say this one dey fight with her boo.
Nothing wrong with sharing these things with friends if done in moderation; you don’t need to share EVERYTHING! Here are some things you should try NEVER to share with others about your partner, they can and will be used against you.
MONEY – Never tell anyone how much your boo earns, or if you’re having money problems. People don’t need to know this. Who wears the financial pants? Who pays for what? If you have an agreement with le boo about how you both want to manage your finances then this should not be up for debate with your friends. The "you can chop my money" status of your relationship should be hidden.
BEDROOM – Do not share what went down last night, how you were kissed senseless, how does this information affect the price of garri in the market? If your boo is a stallion and he steady gives you the "D", keep it to yourself unless you don’t mind sharing him? If you’re celibate avoid discussing it too as your friends may envy you, and if you’re not celibate, you may be tagged as “loose”. They will yimu no matter what.
DETAILS – Avoid giving details. “My boo’s favourite food is Amala and gbegiri, my boo scratches her boobs first thing in the morning, my boo doesn’t like this or that”. Why are you furnishing others with this privileged information? Haven’t you heard stories where a friend snatches le boo? Why do you think that happens? They already know your boo's likes, dislikes, habits e.t.c Do not tell any one where you boo's mumu button is (thanks Honeydame)
FIGHTS – Couples fight all the time, if you don’t fight in your relationship then I put it to you that you are a liar! LOL. Friction is normal as long as you kiss and make up… but telling your parents, your friends about every single quarrel will not help. Its always awkward because your friends will always be on your side and will keep condemning you boo… after you say they don’t respect him/her, why should they? After you’ve forgiven and moved on, those you told will always remember. This point is null and void if your boo is abusive!
SECRETS – We all have secrets and your boo may have told you some of his/hers, it would be totally out of place for you to share something confidential like that with others. Also, if you have a secret you’re keeping from your boo then you should never tell someone else that “biko I don’t want him/her to find out or my boo doesn’t know about this oh”…you’re only giving outsiders ammunition. What if they accidentally or purposely jabo the gist to your boo? Kasala go burst!
DREAMS/PLANS – Dreams, aspirations, plans are things we share with people we love, when your boo is telling you of the mansion he wants to build in 5 years time, or the business he wants to start, avoid being a tatafo, do NOT share this with anyone. Keep their plans, aspirations between the both of you.
Your partner will feel betrayed when they find out you’ve been talking about your private matters, they wouldn’t trust you with anything; If you discuss these matters with your colleagues it breeds see-finish, biko stop. Your friends will wonder what your saying about them to others if your can be so open with details of your boo’s life. People will think you have no self control… they will never confide in you.
If you have more to say on this topic, biko leave a comment below! I want to read from you.
There are so many reasons why we do, if you’re riding on the waves of love with le boo, we tend to update our bbm status, update facebook status, ping friends to chat about how AWESOMELICIOUS your boo is and how HE IS THE BESTESTESTEST boo since "booness" began. Most of us are guilty. LOL. Some other times when the ship is not riding smoothly we become inspirational and update with sentimental things that everyone can decipher that, ol’boy, e be like say this one dey fight with her boo.
Nothing wrong with sharing these things with friends if done in moderation; you don’t need to share EVERYTHING! Here are some things you should try NEVER to share with others about your partner, they can and will be used against you.
MONEY – Never tell anyone how much your boo earns, or if you’re having money problems. People don’t need to know this. Who wears the financial pants? Who pays for what? If you have an agreement with le boo about how you both want to manage your finances then this should not be up for debate with your friends. The "you can chop my money" status of your relationship should be hidden.
BEDROOM – Do not share what went down last night, how you were kissed senseless, how does this information affect the price of garri in the market? If your boo is a stallion and he steady gives you the "D", keep it to yourself unless you don’t mind sharing him? If you’re celibate avoid discussing it too as your friends may envy you, and if you’re not celibate, you may be tagged as “loose”. They will yimu no matter what.
DETAILS – Avoid giving details. “My boo’s favourite food is Amala and gbegiri, my boo scratches her boobs first thing in the morning, my boo doesn’t like this or that”. Why are you furnishing others with this privileged information? Haven’t you heard stories where a friend snatches le boo? Why do you think that happens? They already know your boo's likes, dislikes, habits e.t.c Do not tell any one where you boo's mumu button is (thanks Honeydame)
FIGHTS – Couples fight all the time, if you don’t fight in your relationship then I put it to you that you are a liar! LOL. Friction is normal as long as you kiss and make up… but telling your parents, your friends about every single quarrel will not help. Its always awkward because your friends will always be on your side and will keep condemning you boo… after you say they don’t respect him/her, why should they? After you’ve forgiven and moved on, those you told will always remember. This point is null and void if your boo is abusive!
SECRETS – We all have secrets and your boo may have told you some of his/hers, it would be totally out of place for you to share something confidential like that with others. Also, if you have a secret you’re keeping from your boo then you should never tell someone else that “biko I don’t want him/her to find out or my boo doesn’t know about this oh”…you’re only giving outsiders ammunition. What if they accidentally or purposely jabo the gist to your boo? Kasala go burst!
DREAMS/PLANS – Dreams, aspirations, plans are things we share with people we love, when your boo is telling you of the mansion he wants to build in 5 years time, or the business he wants to start, avoid being a tatafo, do NOT share this with anyone. Keep their plans, aspirations between the both of you.
Your partner will feel betrayed when they find out you’ve been talking about your private matters, they wouldn’t trust you with anything; If you discuss these matters with your colleagues it breeds see-finish, biko stop. Your friends will wonder what your saying about them to others if your can be so open with details of your boo’s life. People will think you have no self control… they will never confide in you.
If you have more to say on this topic, biko leave a comment below! I want to read from you.
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